Sunday, February 22, 2009

Reflections on Relationships

I just got word that my uncle (one of two) has passed away today. This was my mother's brother who lived on the East Coast. He was 80 years old and suffereing from poor health age related issues.

This death has really caused me to ponder relationships - as I often do. I never really knew my uncle, aunt and his children that were my age. Yes, we were separated by a vast country inbetween the two coasts but we were more separated by emotional distance. My mother and her brother were not close but that was not without her efforts. She really has tried continuously over the years to connect with him. For some reason, he just didn't want to have a relationship with her. Maybe it was because of her faith/religion - her lifestyle that was a bit different from his. I'll never know.

He lived an interesting life, working for the CIA traveling the world. I bet he had some amazing stories - that my family may never know.

So we have family - life - relationships. I would have liked to have known my cousins while I was growing up. This is something that has always bothered me. I don't really know any of my cousins - two families on my mothers side and one on my fathers side. So sad.

I want so much for my children to have good relationships with each other - to be the aunts and uncles that I never have had. For my grandchildren, "the cousins" to truly know eachother, to have memories together and to value the blessing of family. So my quest is to have family unity - although we are struggling right now, it's my constant prayer that we can come together, as these children of ours mature, accept personal repsonsiblity and learn embrace truth and the Savior in their lives.

Here's a picture or two of the good old days ....... When life was much more simple and children were more willing to listen, trust and follow their mom and dad - who love them dearly.


  1. I think that the foundations that you have set for your children will be something that they will always carry with them. I know you are making a difference in their lives, whether you see it now or ten years in the future.

  2. What a great post! And what a great family you have!!

  3. It's good to be friends with such a great lady. You are a strength to me and know of the struggle that can come when raising a family. I'm so sorry to hear about your Uncle.

  4. I love your blog and I am sad you are a facebooker now, because I think blogging is so much more visual, so I am just getting into it. What do you like better about Facebook. Also, if you are interested, I have agreed to do a photogrpahy/Photoshop course for the City of Rexburg at the end of June. It will be a Friday night/Saturday workshop. If you are interested I will send you the info. You can find my blog at See you at church!